I literally could have written this myself. I'm going to dissect her entry over here. I wish she had her comments on because I probably would have left all of this over there lol.
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All of her words are in red. Mine are in black. I have her permission to post this on my blog.
It's sad but I've just come to the realization that just because you're kind, doesn't mean that you're a good person. You see when I see a person doing nice things I use to automatically place them in a cool person box, but that shouldn't have been the case. You have to examine a persons character. Is this person being nice to you because there's a motive behind it? Do they know you're giving and kind, so they are being (fake) kind to get what they can get from you? <---I can't tell you how many times I've been through this. Just this past January I had to cut off someone that has been in my life for over 12 years. It was a hard, hard thing to do but I was tired of being used. I'm a giver. Its just who I am. Anyone that knows me will tell you that I give. I give my time, I give my talent. I give. I enjoy it, until I feel like I"m being used.
What these people don't know is when a person is doing something for you from their heart, and you are being the user, you may feel like they are a sucker, but God is like more blessing to my faithful giver. The more I read my bible the more I see the phrase about casting your pearls upon swine. It's really funny to me because when your a user you are constantly moving backwards that's why they NEVER get ahead.<---I started to see this in the lives of those who were using me. I NEVER wish anything bad on anyone, but I started to see some really not so good stuff. I had to put my feelings aside and pray.
Be kind with no intentions of getting anything back. Do it because you love to give a helping hand. Do it because you'd want someone to do the same for your mom, dad or anyone you love if they were in need and you weren't there to help. They could have a flat tire in the middle of nowhere. Wouldn't it be nice if someone just stopped to help them change it. Do it because God would do it. I'm a witness, don't worry if you'll get something back. Plus most times the person you helped isn't where your blessing comes from. Furthermore, YOU will have peace in your heart that you're truly a genuine giver with no expectations!<---I've learned how to continue to give, without being used and suprisingly enough I give even more now. It seems like I've had to let go of some "personal" relationships and put my feelings aside and just do it from my heart. I think before I was doing it for the person and expecting them to give to me in the same way. Now I'm not saying be a dummy and I'm not saying "I" was being a dummy but I've had to learn some hard hard lessons when it comes to friendships/giving.
This was a great post from Major Must Haves. Thank you for allowing me to share on my site :)