Yesterday I was talking to a friend and we ended up talking about marriage issues and issues when in committed relationships. I carried the conversation over to twitter and it got really interesting.
I want to ask y'all what would y'all do.
When going through hard times in a marriage/committed relationship do you talk about those things or do you keep them to yourself?
Especially when you are a blogger or into social networking? Do you find one friend to talk to about the situation or do you keep it to yourself?
I have a friend I've known since childhood and she was going through some hard stuff. LIKE HARD STUFF. She came and stayed with me and we laughed and talked it up all night. Had a fantastic time and I NEVER knew what was going on.
MONTHS later she told me about her situation. I was devistated. I was hurt mainly because she was hurting. Someone on twitter asked me if that made me question our friendship. I told them no. Not at all.
I did ask her why she didn't say anything about it and she told me it was because she didn't want to speak life into the situation. She felt like if she didn't say anything and just pray about it, it would get better.
I totally respect that.
The general answer on twitter was that they wouldn't say anything. Especially if going through marital problems. One person said when she is reading blogs and she reads of marital problems it makes her uneasy. She said if she were married she would keep it between her and her spouse.
Same here. I tell y'all a lot but if Tony and I were on the rocks, I'd never open my mouth. Not ever lol.
I'd keep it going. Keep posting, keep living life lol.
I have told y'all (or maybe my twitter fam) that I've wanted to choke him but ummm lol I'm sure he has wanted to do the same to me lol.
I've mentioned before that after being together since 1993 and married for almost 14 years, if we could have gone through it WE HAVE lol.
So umm yeah lol. That was good convo yesterday. So what would y'all do?
Inquiring minds want to know... Shoot "I" want to know lol.