Change defined: to become different
The first antonym of change in the dictionary : remain
The leaves are starting to turn here. From vibrant green to the colors of fall. Orange, red, yellow. It's still early November so nothing major yet...
I've been taking pictures of trees and leaves for about two weeks, waiting on JUST the right one. I was a out and about when I saw this tree and immediately said, "wow" look at how it's changing.
Change really doesn't happen over night, but when a true change occurs it can be seen during the process.
This tree hasn't changed completely but you can certainly see that the change is indeed taking place.
So often in our lives, we look at ourselves and see areas that need improvement. At that point, we do one or two things. We change, or we don't.
I don't know how many times I've said I'm going to do this or that, or I will do this or that better or stop doing this, yet I remained the same.
I've heard it said that change is hard. Is it really? Maybe it is for some, and not so much for others.
I had a LONG conversation with three people, one lady around my age, my mom and my grandma.
It was so interesting to me how each person looked at change.
The lady that was close to my age kept saying change was hard for her. It's not that easy.
My mom and my grandma were on the same page with change, saying it's up to the person. If they want to change for the better, they will. If they want to remain the same, they will. You can't make anyone do anything they don't want to do.
My grandma used the example of the smoker. No matter how much you preach to them, they ain't gonna stop unless they want to. They have to want it. You can't want it for them.
Everyone is different in what they think, how they feel. So in this situation, there isn't a right or a wrong answer, just how each individual handles it.
I can remember a time when someone made promises to me. The promise to change. They made it sound so good. Made me feel like it was all gonna be fine. I held on the their promises, waiting on the change. It didn't happen. Sure a few things here and there were done differently but only enough so that it could be said..hey I did change. This happened a few times, each time, I held on just hoping that this will really be it.
NOT SO MUCH.
There is only so much an individual can handle before they finally give up.
One of the hardest things to do, is step outside yourself and look at you. You might not like what you see. Have you been there? **RAISES HAND** I have. Still am sometimes.
I know I have become so comfortable in who I am, and doing things the way I want to do it, that when it's brought to my attention that I'm doing something wrong, I look at them with disgust. Because I KNOW I'm on it.*pops collar*
Once I get over myself and really look, I see that they actually had a valid point. I try to stop whatever it is right then. It does NOT always happen like that though.
One thing that is a "big" thing at my house, is my phone in my hand ALL THE TIME. That was THE hardest thing for me to change about myself. THE HARDEST.
LOL, now umm while I'm working on it still (because I DO have a crackberry lol) it's not nearly as bad as it was lol. I now know when its ok to have it and when its not lol. So it's not constantly in my hand lol.
All I had to do was stand in the other person's shoes and see what they saw. It wasn't pretty lol.
How do you handle change? When a loved one or close friend tells you they see something in you that isn't a good trait...how do you handle it?
Feel free to discuss :)