The pain in my heart just cant be described. I talk about Patrick on here ALL THE TIME because he is such a part of my family. He was killed in a car accident early Saturday morning. He was 33 years old.
This is so hard for our family. Patrick was like a brother to me and my husband. He and Tony had been friends since they were like two.
Patrick was a friend to many folks. The type that never met a stranger. EVER. A kind, gentle soul. Just a great guy. crazy as hell but a wonderful man lol.
The kids would put an old sheet on the table and call it the nixon restaurant lol. Patrick always had dinner with us. When I cooked...I cooked enough for Pat and he could EAT. His birthday was the other day and we were gonna have a gathering for him at our house this afternoon. My heart hurts.
See Pat was MORE than a friend. THe kind of friend that everyone isn't blessed enough to know. He was our family.
He LOVED the kids.He was Uncle Pat! Didn't get any better than that lol. They are REALLY taking it hard. Pray for my babies. They haven't had anyone that was THIS close to them die. Kayla is really going through trying to understand. It's hard.
I miss him so much. My husband misses him so much.
We love him SO MUCH. This just hurts.
This is the way I will remember Pat. CRAZY as hell. Happy and FULL of life.
Pray for his family. His son who is too young to understand. His parents who have to bury him. His younger brother and his sister. His friends.
I keep saying I love him because I do. Very much.
Pray for Tony. They were together right before it happened. Tony had to leave early because he had to be at work at 4am Saturday morning. He saw the accident on the interstate on his way to work but had NO clue it was Patrick.
Just pray for us all.
my dear sister---you and your family are in our prayers---God took his child home to be with him---keep his memory aliveand tell the childrenn that they were truly blessed to have had a wonderful "Uncle Pat" who also loved them---remain blessed!
Posted by: EssenseVibez | May 03, 2009 at 09:07 AM
I'm so sorry for your loss. My prayers are with your family. I pray that God will comfort your bereaving hearts.
Posted by: Kamika | May 03, 2009 at 09:19 AM
Oh my gosh. My deepest sympathies to you and your family. I'm so sorry. And (((hugs))).
Posted by: jillian | May 03, 2009 at 09:27 AM
I am so sorry for you loss
Posted by: Jenifer | May 03, 2009 at 09:34 AM
Adrienne, I'm so sorry you and your family are going through this. I am lucky enough to also have friends who are 'family', so I can imagine the love you have for Patrick. My prayers are with you all.
Posted by: Claire S. | May 03, 2009 at 09:36 AM
Adrienne, I am very sorry to hear about the lost of your family. There are really no words to make the pain go away as it is never easy to love someone who is beloved to you and your family. Take care and support one another during this time and remember the love.
Posted by: Sheri | May 03, 2009 at 09:47 AM
What a terrible loss. Everyone is in my thoughts and prayers.
Posted by: Renee | May 03, 2009 at 10:18 AM
So sorry to hear about your loss. What a tragedy
Posted by: cici | May 03, 2009 at 10:32 AM
my deepest sympathies to your family.
Posted by: narcissaqtpie | May 03, 2009 at 10:46 AM
I am so sorry. You have my prayers.
Posted by: Arlene Murrin | May 03, 2009 at 10:51 AM
Adrienne, I am sorry for the loss that you, Tony, and the children are feeling about the loss of your dear friend. There are those people that are so dear to us that they are not to be replaced. I hope and pray in time you will feel lucky to have known him, if only for a short time. I shall pray for you and your family.
Helen
Posted by: Helen | May 03, 2009 at 11:11 AM
OMG!!!! This is truly UNbelievable!!
I would have NEVER wanted to come here and read this post....I am so sorry Adrienne as I know all of you (esp. Tony) are hurting and are in my prayers...just such a shock.
Praying for your comfort and strength during this sorrowful time, and that you all continue remember the joy Patrick brought to each of you.
Posted by: Stacey_CrimsonPurl | May 03, 2009 at 11:17 AM
I am so sorry sweetie. I will keep you and your family in my prayers.
Posted by: Carla | May 03, 2009 at 11:30 AM
Adrienne, I am SOOO sorry. I pray for strength and peace for all you. I just don't have anymore words. Know that my household is lifting you guys up in prayer.
Posted by: Trina | May 03, 2009 at 11:39 AM
I am so incredibly sorry for your loss. Big hugs to you, Tony and the kids. Patrick must have been a wonderful man, its too bad he was taken too young
Posted by: Kristi | May 03, 2009 at 11:52 AM
I am so very sorry for your loss. My deepest sympathies to you and your family.
Posted by: Lossie | May 03, 2009 at 12:09 PM
Consider it done. I am so sorry that you guys are going through this...
Roxanne
Posted by: Roxanne | May 03, 2009 at 12:16 PM
You and Your Family are in my prayers, and I'm sorry for your loss.
Posted by: Shika | May 03, 2009 at 01:22 PM
I hate that such a wonderful person was taken so soon, but God surrounds himself with the best. You're entire family will definitely be in my prayers, especially Tony. May your great memories as well as God provide you comfort at this rocky time.
Posted by: MrsSaditty | May 03, 2009 at 02:06 PM
OMG, I'M SO SORRY.... My prayers are with you and your family, dear friend... Hang in there
Posted by: Tany | May 03, 2009 at 02:13 PM
I am sorry for such a tragic loss. My prayers are with you and your family.
Posted by: Jackie | May 03, 2009 at 02:19 PM
How very sad. I'm sorry for your loss and the loss of a great person. my thoughts are with you and your family.
Posted by: Rose | May 03, 2009 at 02:35 PM
i am so sorry. All these years reading your blog i thought he was family (well blood family i can tell he was chosen family)
Posted by: andie | May 03, 2009 at 02:51 PM
Your family is in my prayers. I truly can relate to what you are going through right now. Be strong and rely on one another to get you through this tough time.
Posted by: Jayme | May 03, 2009 at 03:05 PM
this is such sad news. i am so sorry for your loss of your beloved family friend.
Posted by: lisa (momy4him) | May 03, 2009 at 03:27 PM
Oh wow...I remember reading post about Patrick. I am so sorry to hear this and I will keep your family and his in prayer. I know how it is to loose someone you loved dearly.
Posted by: Tracey | May 03, 2009 at 03:59 PM
My sincere condolences to you, your husband, and to your kids. I will keep you in my prayers.
Posted by: LOVE's Sewing | May 03, 2009 at 04:41 PM
I am so sorry for your loss. I will keep your family lifted up in prayer
Posted by: Pam | May 03, 2009 at 04:43 PM
Oh my. My heart goes out to you. You are in my thoughts and prayers, and Patrick's family as well. God Bless.
Posted by: Cathy | May 03, 2009 at 04:43 PM
Sorry about the lost of your dear friend. I will keep you and theentire family in my prayers.
Posted by: Kelroc | May 03, 2009 at 04:47 PM
I will be praying for your family.So sorry about your lost.
Posted by: gold | May 03, 2009 at 05:12 PM
I'm so sorry for your loss. Hugs to you and yours...
Posted by: Lori in MN | May 03, 2009 at 05:19 PM
I am so sorry. My deepest sympathy to you and yours.
Posted by: Lisette | May 03, 2009 at 05:24 PM
It's not all the time that we are fortunate enough to have someone touch our live in such a profound way. The loss is great. He has definately made his impact on this earth. God bless you all. So sorry for your tremendous loss!
Posted by: Jackie | May 03, 2009 at 05:40 PM
I am so sorry to hear that. No one should have to endure such tragedy. All my prayers today are for you and your family.
Posted by: Peacock Chic | May 03, 2009 at 06:26 PM
Sometimes really horrible things happen and it just sucks. Special thoughts for you all.
Posted by: Meg | May 03, 2009 at 06:29 PM
Prayers for all of you - such a tragic loss.
Posted by: Dana | May 03, 2009 at 06:43 PM
I'm very sorry about your dear friend Patrick.
May light perpetual shine upon him.
Posted by: Carrie | May 03, 2009 at 07:48 PM
My deepest condolences on the lost of your dear friend. As I read your entry today I was brought to tears over your loving tribute to him. It's always sad to lose a friend. I can feel your pain through your words and tribute.
I have you on my prayer list but I will definitely add Patrick and his family to my list too.
Posted by: Cassandra | May 03, 2009 at 07:57 PM
Oh, Adrienne! I'm so sorry. My prayers are with your family and Patrick's family.
CarlaF-in Atlanta
Posted by: CarlaF | May 03, 2009 at 08:03 PM
I am so sorry for your loss, Adrienne. He was obviously well loved.
Posted by: Bonnie | May 03, 2009 at 08:06 PM
I am so sorry you've lost such a wonderful friend. Our prayers are with you and your family!
Posted by: Sheree | May 03, 2009 at 08:48 PM
Adrienne, so sorry to learn of Patrick's passing. My condolences and prayers go out to you, your family and Patrick's family. God Bless.
Posted by: Regina | May 03, 2009 at 08:48 PM
Sorry for your loss My prayers are with You, Your family and Patrick's family.
Posted by: barb | May 03, 2009 at 09:28 PM
Oh God, I'm so sorry. You are all in my thoughts and prayers.
Posted by: Vicki | May 03, 2009 at 09:37 PM
Oh my goodness Adrienne, I am so sad for you and your family. I am sitting here in tears for ya'll because I can tell that Patrick was very much a part of your family. I will definitely lift your family and Patrick's family up in prayer. Matthew 5:4-Blessed are those that mourn, for they shall be comforted.
Posted by: T.T. | May 03, 2009 at 10:18 PM
So sorry to hear that news. I'm praying for your family's strength.
Posted by: Faye Lewis | May 03, 2009 at 10:26 PM
I'm so sorry to hear this news. You have my deepest sympathy and prayers.
Posted by: Omega | May 03, 2009 at 10:32 PM
Adrienne, I am so sorry to hear this news. I pray that Patrick's family and every person that loves him will get some comfort in knowing that God is still in control.
Be encouraged! Hug your children for me. I feel for you!
Posted by: Alisa | May 03, 2009 at 10:50 PM
Your family is in my thoughts and prayers. Big hugs!
Posted by: Bunny | May 03, 2009 at 11:10 PM
I'm so sorry for your family's loss of a wonderful friend. Prayers and hugs to your family and Patrick's.
Kim
Posted by: Kim | May 03, 2009 at 11:16 PM
Praying that God gives you the peace that only He can give.
Posted by: The NON-Superwoman | May 04, 2009 at 12:11 AM
This just shows how precious life is (we realize it when someone dies not when they are alive) I will keep him his and your family in prayer.
Posted by: Virginia J | May 04, 2009 at 12:34 AM
Adrienne, I can't even find the words. Please know that you and your family are in my thoughts and prayers. My deepest condolences to you, your family, and Patrick's family.
Posted by: Andrea | May 04, 2009 at 01:17 AM
I am so very very sorry for your loss. I wish the best for you and your family and friends.
Posted by: tiennie | May 04, 2009 at 01:34 AM
Speechless, teary eyed, and Praying for you ALL!!!!
Posted by: Tasha | May 04, 2009 at 02:16 AM
Oh no! Oh girl.. my thoughts and prayers with you and your family.. and most def his family.. I can't imagine....
I'm so sorry for your loss :(
Posted by: Ronalyn | May 04, 2009 at 02:18 AM
I am so sorry for this devastating loss to your family.
{{HUGS}} to all of you.
Posted by: katie | May 04, 2009 at 03:35 AM
WOW! Much prayer is in order. I will be praying for your strength in the Lord.
Posted by: Melissa J Royster | May 04, 2009 at 06:14 AM
Sorry to hear this. Your family is in my prayers.
Andrea
Posted by: Andrea | May 04, 2009 at 06:22 AM
I am so sorry for your loss. Your family is in my prayers.
Posted by: Pam | May 04, 2009 at 07:18 AM
May God give your family and Patrick's family & friends peace in this time of grief. God Bless! (((((hugs)))))
Posted by: Deborah J | May 04, 2009 at 07:24 AM
Oh no. I am so sorry to hear that you lost someone you love. You are in my prayer. Hugs hugs
Posted by: cynthia michener | May 04, 2009 at 08:09 AM
I'm so sorry. I will keep both of your families in my prayers.
Posted by: GeckoGirl | May 04, 2009 at 08:14 AM
My condolences to you and your family. I'll keep you guys in prayer.
Posted by: Tracy | May 04, 2009 at 08:34 AM
I am praying for you and your family. I am so sorry.
Posted by: Neecha | May 04, 2009 at 08:39 AM
Adrienne, I am praying for all of your families. ((hugs))
Posted by: Keelah | May 04, 2009 at 09:31 AM
So,so,sorry for your loss. I will keep you and your family in my prayers.
Posted by: urbanknitrix | May 04, 2009 at 09:44 AM
So very sorry to hear about Patrick, Adrienne. My sincerest condolences. So sad. Prayers will be said for everyone's healing and strength.
Hugs,
Gladys
Posted by: Gladys | May 04, 2009 at 10:01 AM
That is so terrible - I'm so sorry for your loss. He sounds like a wonderful person who will be missed by everyone.
Posted by: Robin | May 04, 2009 at 10:26 AM
I found with loss and children they not just feel the loss of thier loved one, but the loss of feeling safe and protected. They fear the loss of thier parents and how fleeting life can be. Only time will help. We are never the same person after we have such a terrible loss. But some good can come of it because we find out that little things and possesions have little meaning and how important it is to love our family and friends while we have them. You and your family and friends are in my prayers.
Posted by: Beth Conky | May 04, 2009 at 10:27 AM
My prayers go out to you and your family. Sorry about the loss!
Posted by: Teka | May 04, 2009 at 10:32 AM
Oh, Adrienne..I am SO sad and upset to hear about this. Although so hard on you and Tony, I can only imagine how hard it is for the kids to understand. There's just not much of anything you can tell them, is there? I will pray though.
If you and Tony need a break and some time to think, be alone, etc....let the kids come over here and hang out.
Posted by: Cheryl | May 04, 2009 at 11:15 AM
So sorry for your lost and May God give you and your family the strength to bear this lost. May his soul rest in perfect peace
Posted by: Aminat | May 04, 2009 at 12:03 PM
My deepest sympathies for your sudden loss. You are in my heart and prayers.
Posted by: Catherine | May 04, 2009 at 12:09 PM
I'm so sorry to here this news. Sending you prayers and deepest sympathies during this difficult time!
Posted by: Nglalala | May 04, 2009 at 12:30 PM
My heart hurts for you and your family and everyone who's life he had touched. I'm so sorry for the loss of such a wonderful person. You are all in my thoughts.
Posted by: Christie | May 04, 2009 at 12:52 PM
My heart goes out to you and your family. May God bless and keep you in your time of mourning.
Posted by: sundaze | May 04, 2009 at 12:57 PM
Oh, honey. I'm sorry. You know I'm praying for your family and his.
Posted by: NIK | May 04, 2009 at 01:06 PM
I'm so sorry to hear this.
Posted by: Bridgette | May 04, 2009 at 01:56 PM
I am praying for you and your family. Sounds like you all were blessed to know each other. My heart and prayers are with your and his family at this time.
Posted by: DD | May 04, 2009 at 02:02 PM
Ohhhh I am SO VERY SORRY. I'm praying for you and your family.
Posted by: Jeanine | May 04, 2009 at 02:27 PM
Wow! I know just from the short time I've been reading your blog, how much you & Tony loved Patrick. So sorry for your loss!
Posted by: Toni | May 04, 2009 at 04:16 PM
Adrienne,
Please know that our hearts and prayers are with you, your family, and all who loved Pat. There aren't words for this. I am so sorry.
Love,
Sherry
Posted by: SherryV | May 04, 2009 at 04:34 PM
Girl, I am sorry for your family's loss. My heart and prayers go out to your and his family. Huge hugs for you all!
Posted by: Thomisia | May 04, 2009 at 05:06 PM
sorry for your loss. You and Patrick's family have my deepest sympathy and prayers.
Jackie
Posted by: Jackie Fisher | May 04, 2009 at 05:21 PM
My heart goes out to you & your family and to his family. I am saddened to read about this. Stay as strong as you can...
Posted by: dhill | May 04, 2009 at 06:08 PM
Adrienne I'm so sorry. *hugs* I couldn't even imagine how it would feel to lose someone so close to me like that. You, Tony and the kids are in my prayers.
Posted by: Sherri | May 04, 2009 at 06:17 PM
Wow, I'm so sorry to read this. Your tribute to him is so sweet.
Take care.
Posted by: Lisa @celebrate CREATIVITY | May 04, 2009 at 06:39 PM
Adrienne I am so sorry for the loss of your family's dear friend. I pray that God will bring comfort to each of your hearts.
Posted by: Patricia Richardson | May 04, 2009 at 07:32 PM
Adrienne, Tony and Family:
I am deeply saddened to hear you so tragically lost a friend who was very near and dear to your heart. I am very sorry for your loss. May the happy memories you have of Patrick comfort you... ((hugs))
Posted by: Carolanne | May 04, 2009 at 07:35 PM
Oh, Adrienne, I am so sorry for your loss. It looks like he was definitely an amazing person. I will pray for your family during this time.
Posted by: Tiffany | May 04, 2009 at 07:56 PM
Just reading this. Adrienne you all are in my thoughts and prayers.
Posted by: DisneyCyndi | May 04, 2009 at 08:11 PM
so sorry for your loss.....
Posted by: tracy | May 04, 2009 at 08:38 PM
Adrienne, I am so sorry for your loss. You and your family and his are in my prayers.
Jeannie
Posted by: Jeannie | May 04, 2009 at 09:57 PM
i am so sorry for the loss to you and your family and i hope you will find comfort in each other. it is hard to lose some one you love and even harder to see your children in pain.
Posted by: elsie | May 04, 2009 at 10:42 PM
My heart goes out to you and your family in this difficult time - he sounds like a wonderful friend.
Posted by: Robyn | May 05, 2009 at 01:20 AM
Adrienne, I am so sorry. I'm praying for your family and for Patrick's family. I know it must be really hard. Sometime in the future......... the memories that you have will actually give you comfort and make you smile even when you want to cry.
Posted by: Katrina | May 05, 2009 at 03:31 AM
Adrienne, I am so saddened by this news! My prayers are with you, your family and Patrick's family. May you all find peace and comfort through your memories.
Posted by: Brenda | May 05, 2009 at 04:03 AM
Adrienne, I'm so sorrow about about the loss of your family friend. My prayers and thoughts are are with you and your family as you go through this time of sorrow.
Posted by: Cynthia | May 05, 2009 at 06:55 AM