W.I.P

EVERYONE knows what W.I.P is....just in case you don't, it stands for:

WORK IN PROGRESS

That really is what I am. A work in progress.

I don't know what has been going on with me and my mindset lately. Things are just DIFFERENT for me. I think it's called GROWTH lol.

Stuff that used to piss me off. It doesn't phase me anymore.

People that I used to want to associate with, I don't want to be around them or anyone remotely like them anymore. I've learned that everybody that "claim" to be real, really ain't. They want you to think they are one thing when they are REALLY something else. Glad I love just being me lol. FLAWS AND ALL.

People that are just down right negative....they are gone from my life. ESPECIALLY those in internet land. I have taken people off my twitter (WHICH I AM TRULY ADDICTED TO :-)) off facebook, out of my google reader. Just GONE. Deleted email addresses lol...well I guess you get the point.

I  have learned and I'm still learning that some people come into your life for a reason and a season. Once they have done what they need to do in your life, be it good or not so good. They leave.

Now don't start scratching your head trying to figure out who is gone from my life lol. It's no one in particular, but just in general lol.

You start out being really great friends with someone, then slowly ya'll start to drift apart. Being human the first thing you might think (or what I might think lol) is dang...what did I do to upset them? It's not you. It's just their time to leave your life. Hopefully whatever purpose they were supposed to serve, they did just that and you learned whatever lesson you were supposed to learn from them.

So don't stress over it. Move on. That's what I had to learn to do.

Some things I have never noticed before are taking front and center in my life. Things I've never even thought about.

It's like I'm elvoving. Changing, but all in a good way.  I dunno.... I guess I'm just rambling lol.

I love the person I am becoming.

A better wife.
A better mother.
A better friend.
A better sister.
A better daughter.
A better person.

I can see the change in my attitude. I can see the change in the way I think. I can see the change in the way I feel about things.

Y'all I have more patience lol. THAT is a wonderful, wonderful thing.

That's all. Guess I just needed to get that out lol.

Comments

[Carla]

What you are experiencing is the growth that takes place when we get to our 30's. Or as it has been said 'the light has come on' and you can see things much clearer when the lights are on.
I am no longer allowing people into my life that bring negativity or drama of any kind. I am in love with my life right now because the people who love and support me are still with me.

I look forward to hearing more about your journey to the woman you are becoming.

[Ronalyn]

Love this!!! I'm proud of you!

[MrsSaditty]

a jet soars higher without excess baggage! Growth is an eye-opening and continuous process and not everyone has the opportunity to experience it. Enjoy the experience.

[Meg]

I love hearing about it, good for you. Now spread it around! :)

[CarlaF]

Bravo! It's great when you realize you have the freedom to live your life the way you chose. Not the way others think YOU should. When I finally got that this wasn't being selfish or judgmental of other people, I felt like a big weight had been lifted from my shoulders. In the words of Dr. King, I was "Free at last. Free at last. Thank God All Might. I'm free at last."

Live your life girl!

CarlaF-in Atlanta

[Tracy G]

As a child you think like a child, as a grown woman you put away childish things.

Maturity is a B*!#h!

Wait unitl you turn 40! :)

Grow on Sister!

[Ki]

Preach on sistah! I hear you LOUD and CLEAR..actually on the same page. Growing is a wonderful thing.
"Be not afraid of moving fast, but be afraid of standing still"

[Jeanine]

Wow...Good for you and very well put. I'm a firm believer in EVERYTHING you said. Good for you!

[urbanknitrix]

Yup!! Feels good!! Amen and all the time!!!

[Dana]

Wow, your post brought me to tears. As I had to learn this too. Some people are just NOT GOOD FOR YOU. In my case, it's family! Or so called family. Sometimes you have to cut people loose or what I call LOVE FROM A DISTANCE! This is one of favorite posts from you yet!!!

[Dana]

Also I had to add, Adrienne you are a BEAUTIFUL PERSON, inside and out. You are a real person! So many people are SCARED OF THAT, jealous of that, envious of that, and sometimes people want to get close to you, just so that they can HURT you in some way, crazy but true. I am still GROWING, can't even say I am where you are, and you are younger, but what you said IS SO TRUE, you have people who come into your life, for reason, a season, or a LIFETIME. I hope that I am one of those life timers....

[Shawn]

Love this and I can totally relate. You should feel blessed you are experiencing this now because I know some 40 year old and older folks that still enjoy high schoolish drama and the net can bring on alot of that. Do you and leave the mess behind!

[Carolanne]

Adrienne, I love this post. I, too, have been acutely aware of myself changing and growing over the years at certain ages. It truly is an amazing and freeing feeling. Its a self-confidence you can't describe. You go, girl! Wait until you reach age 40, look out! :))

[Cassandra]

I agree with you completely. We're all works in progress.

[Aminat]

You are absolutely right sistah, I am in my early 30 too, and as of yesterday my husband told me that I have changed a lot. I guess maturity comes with age..... I am so proud of you. Keep up the good work

[Regina]

Adrienne, I am 47. Yes this growth happens. I invite you to visit my blog at reginageesplace.blogspot.com and read my favorite poem on the sidebar - The Journey by Mary Oliver. I was in my late 30's when I read that poem in an Oprah Magazine and it changed my life forever. I just wanted to share its widsom with you. Peace and Happiness always.

[Sherri]

This is fabulous. I'm so glad you shared this with us. I'm hitting my mid-30s and I'm finding that I have very little tolerance for things I used to let slide. I speak up for myself more, talk less and less to people that I feel are crowding my life with things I don't need or want.

Get it, girl!

Now see...I have LESS patience. Maybe because I work with kids. ;o)

[carlitadee]

Growth is the blessing of grace, girl.

[Stacey _CrimsonPurl]

We are all! Relationships always evolve and some you have to prune! ;o) It is all good either way!

[tanyetta]

I love this so much and I needed to read this today. Thank you for reminding all of us what's really important in life :)

P.S. I betta not be one of those people you kicked to the curb. I don't go away that easily anyway! :)

[Cee]

I've had to do the same.

Think again of what's part of the title of my blog?

PEOPLE ARE CRAZY, but I am plain nuts to allow their madeness to drive me insane.

[Kristi S]

I think I am growing in a lot of the same ways and it feels good
I am still proud and pleased to be your #1 friend from MN :) You're stuck with me.

[lisa (momy4him)]

great post adrienne! i believe everything happens for a reason, people come into your life for a reason, not everyone you meet is going to be a friend. once i started looking at things from that perspective life got a lot easier!

[Marcia]

You are such an inspiration and quite an amazing young lady. Your children will be blessed just by having the opportunity to call you "Mommy". Sail on my friend. You are truly living your life with purpose. Don't allow anyone to hold you back. The sky is the limit and your destiny is in your hands.

[Virginia]

You don't have to be a certain age for the light of common sense to come on. When you finally realize the girlfriend you call to talk to every day doesn't call to see how you are the 1 day you don not call tells you something. You begin to wonder if it was a one sided relationship becaus ususally the person who calls does all the talking. Then you wonder about the connection. When the awakening happens you realize or wonder is there really a place in your life for some one who is a taker and not a giver. You have done the right think to clean out that shelf in your life and to make way for new blessings in the form of ideas, love, friends, family. All that was bringing you down is now no more. Keep up the good work. PS with all the remarks to your post who needs to go out and buy a book when the answers are free and forthcoming.

[Elaray]

Adrienne, I can tell you are an amazing woman! You are open to learning - about life and about yourself. Some people never get that. May God continue to bless you on your journey.

[Trice]

OMG. Thank you for this. This lets me know that it can be done, its just not an overnight process like I want it to be. I just have a hard time letting go sometimes. Instead I just pack up and move, and over time forget about it. =)

[Robin]

What a great post!! I think I went through the same thing in my early 30s - a process of "de-cluttering" of people that don't add anything to my life. Some people just do not want the best for you, despite your good feelings and intentions for them - and those are the people that need to be trimmed out.

[Tiffany]

Good for you, Adrienne. Growth is a wonderful thing and when you see it in yourself it is even more so. I'd like to say that God is working with you. I am convinced that He is the only one that can bring about true, positive change that is lasting. :-)

[Sue]

Love this post! Especially this part:

I have learned and I'm still learning that some people come into your life for a reason and a season. Once they have done what they need to do in your life, be it good or not so good. They leave.

I have learned this the hard way and I am a lot older than you are...I used to worry and fret over losing old friends, but now I am content to let people come and go from my life. The true friends and the wonderful buddies that are in my life now, well let's just say they are needed for this stage in my life. Love your list of "BETTERs". I can see it in your posts. Just hope my e-mail satays with you...have a wonderful Valentine's Day and super weekend!

[Kellistarr]

You know what, Adrienne? You have helped me without even knowing me. I feel that I was supposed to read your post today because I have severed some ties and though I'm confident in my decision, periodically, I question if I did the right thing, just because the friendship was a long one. But, be it however long, when it's time to end, it's time to end. That person served her purpose. She was in my life for a reason and many many seasons. Sometimes, you just out grow people. But, for me, I have moved on now. It's called growth and I'm happy to say that I am still growing and still learning. Thanks for this post.

[Muriel]

I can relate. I am totally a WIP.

[Keelah]

Wow! Amen and Halleluyer!!! I'm so excited for you Adrienne! This is GREAT TO HEAR! (or read! lol)

[Krystal (aka Pirouette)]

I'm turning 31 this month, and I've also come to realize that some people just aren't who they seem to be, and yes, you have to just let them go. Sometimes it can be hard, but it's so necessary. I don't have time for extraneous friends! You know what I mean? LOL.

[Dawn Bibbs]

Do yo thang, girl! Take care of YOU! Handle YO business...and all the other phrases like that that don't quickly come to mind :-).

[Phyllis T.]

This is so true and glad to know that self-evolution is still alive and well. It's not always an easy process but it is a very necessary process to weed and prune negativity from your life. Glad to know you're grabbing the bull-by-the-horn and getting what you need from life. My continued prayers are with you and thanks for allowing me to share in your growth.